Are You the Hero or the Villain in Your Own Story?

We all like to believe we’re the hero of our own story—the righteous protagonist fighting against the odds. But what if you’re not? What if, instead of being the noble warrior, you’re actually the villainess? And—here’s the kicker—what if that’s not a bad thing?

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The Myth of the Perfect Heroine

Patriarchy adores a well-behaved woman. The self-sacrificing mother, the devoted wife, the tireless caregiver—these are the heroines we’ve been conditioned to emulate. What if that role was designed to keep you small?

The Villainess, by contrast, take up space. They are bold, driven, and unapologetically themselves. A villainess knows she has one life to live—and she pours herself into living it fully.

Whether you choose to have children or not, you will be villainized the moment certain men realize they are not the center of your universe—and that’s okay. Because when they’re no longer the center of your universe, their opinions lose relevance (except, of course, to the extent that they still represent your #1 predators).

It’s my honest spiritual belief that our task in this life is to become who we truly are, deep down inside. But here’s what often happens: people internalize unwelcome judgments, shame, projections, and fear—and begin to believe that their true selves are somehow bad. That couldn’t be further from the truth. It’s just that they stuffed all this bad stuff down there, it’s blocking out the good.

So stop consuming other people’s bad ideas about you. If you keep those nasty ideas about who you are and why you’ll fail locked inside, your soul will never know peace.

Let them out—through conversation, art, dance, song, hiking, building, screaming into the wind—whatever form feels right.

But know this: speaking your truth might piss people off. And in 2025, those “people” are likely to be the loneliness-addicted, United Statesian white males.

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Rewriting Your Role

To step fully into your power, you must shed the outdated belief that being “good” means being selfless to the point of self-erasure. Instead, embrace the idea that doing what you want is sacred—it’s you finally aligning with your spirit, listening to your inner compass the way you were always meant to as an intuitive being.

You grow stronger when you enforce boundaries that nourish both your inner world and your outer ecosystem. You protect your life energy by refusing to waste it in service of being palatable to others. If they can’t handle it, they’re welcome to leave. Shoo.

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Signs You Might Be the Villainess

You no longer feel guilty for putting yourself first—because this is your one wild and precious life, and you’re making an adventure of it. Or a study. Or a solo quest. But you’re not here to be a background character. Your only true job on this earth is to become your best self, and you can’t do that while playing by someone else’s rules.

You’re done explaining yourself. Not everything deserves a conversation. You honor your own time and energy, and you don’t entertain small talk just to fill space. You engage when you choose, guided by your own goals and intentions.

Your desires matter. What you want for your life matters. And anyone who disagrees? Maybe it’s time to re-evaluate their place in your inner circle.

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Conclusion: Own Your Power

Be the hero if you want. But if you’re the villainess? Even better. Because unlike the hero, who waits for someone to save, the villainess lives her life—on her terms—and writes her own damn destiny, literally saving her one precious self.